The level at which an event in life wrecks you is a reflection on how unlikely you consider adversity.
As I’ve said, I’m focusing on acceptance this month and part of acceptance is knowing that hard times will inevitably fall upon you. It’s one of the only things you can be certain of in life. So if we know hard times will hit us, why wouldn’t we prepare?
You might think “well I can’t prepare because I never know what is coming or when it is coming.” My response is that’s all the more reason to be prepared!
One of my favorite Jordan Peterson quotables is: don’t wait for the dragon to come find you, go out and slay the damn dragon! What this means is to be prepared in your life. Live with intention and diligence. That means not being naive to the fact that hard things are going to happen to you. Being naive makes you vulnerable to the deepest hurt but it also makes you the most susceptible to anger, resentment and depression.
If you walk around life pretending you are immune to hard times, when they hit they will crumble you. They will also leave you bitter and angry.
I can remember when my daughter Kathryn died and people around me were so angry. They would say things like “I can’t understand why this would happen to people like you and Casey! You are both so healthy and would make amazing parents.” As if somehow being a good person makes you immune to the death of a child.
I always find it curious when celebrities or other well known people die unexpectedly, and everyone spends the next several weeks in such shock and awe as if people don’t die. People do die and sadly, it most often involves suffering.
Now I’m not saying you should spend every day thinking about tragedy or death. I’m saying you should live with eyes wide open and be prepared for anything life sends your way. What is your other option? Bury your head and “hope” heartache somehow doesn’t find you? That’s childish and naive and it won’t work.
Be prepared for anything. Be strong in your body which in turn will help you be strong in mind. Don’t wait for hard things to come find you. Do hard things everyday. Be prepared for the worst and you’ll live most days at your best.
“Fortune falls heavily on those for whom she’s unexpected. The one always on the lookout easily endures.”
~Seneca
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Hello my friends!
I'm finishing up the transition away from Locals onto Substack and wanted to be sure each of you have made the necessary adjustments to your accounts. For those of you who have remaining months left on your paid support here, I have comped you the balance over at Substack.
This will be the final week I post content here.
I will resume the live recordings over there, starting with our first call on Friday, March 3rd at 9am/12pm. Invitations to join the Zoom calls will go out on Substack. Mark your calendars!
Also, be sure to download the Substack App! I love the app and find it so helpful in organizing content I want to read later by keeping it on my dashboard.
See you on the other side!
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One of the biggest challenges in writing my book is not being able to share any of it along the way. Given my narcissistic need for constant approval and attention, not having any feedback is killing me. Even negative attention is better than no attention at all (which explains a lot of my behavior in life), so not only am I missing the praise but I also miss my haters.
I need to break out of this cave. Thanks to Chuck Palahniuk who writes Spoiler Alert on Substack, but you would know as the author of Fight Club, I got the idea to share some excerpts and things that won’t make the final edit. This will give us both what we need. I get some attention and you get some thought provoking words to make you think (and possibly laugh, cry or both.)
Today’s snippet is from the first draft of a chapter titled, Remove Your Kindergarten Name Tag. I am currently on my third revision and we can all be thankful for this. As I walk my readers through the dark hallways of my earliest years, and attempt ...
Wanted to pass this short video along. We think of health in very limited ways. Faith, nature, love, communality, shared human experience…all prove to be just as necessary, if not more so, than going to the gym.
I’ve always viewed and taught health from this perspective. It is my belief the lack of these essential elements is as big an issue in our culture as poor diet and lack of movement.
The takeaway-we can do better🙏🏼
