Your goal: "get in shape."
My goal: "Connect myself and others to what's meaningful amongst all of humanity and create content worthy of 1 million people reading it."
I'm actually going to achieve my goal and you're not.
Ya know why? Because your goals don't mean anything to you.
Goals without meaning are useless and even worse, they keep you from actually creating the life you want because your attention gets focused on things that don't matter to you. You set arbitrary goals every January 1st, work on them for a short period of time and then go right back to living the way you've always lived. Except this time, with one more layer of guilt and shame about all the things you're not doing. By the time you're in your 40's, that's a lot of unfilled promises to yourself you haven't kept.
Do you really want to live like that? No thanks!
This year I've set my focus on helping more people see through this short-sided thinking and really dig deep into what it is they actually want from life. Not the losing some weight, going to the gym 3x per week, eating "better" (whatever that means) or any other surface level goal people set thinking it will change who they are. Those things are the easy part to change, but only after you figure out what really matters to you.
Most people make the mistake of starting with a micro-level goal, like the ones mentioned above, but have no idea what the macro-level aim is for their life. That's like going on a road trip, leaving your house and saying, "I'm going to turn right out of my driveway, from there....I have no idea where I'm going or how I'm going to get there.' Ridiculous.
Yet, that is what you're doing with your life. Picking some arbitrary micro-goal without any thought to where it is you are trying to go and then being surprised that you didn't get there.
What do you really want in life? Why do you want what you say you want?
Those are big questions but ones that need to be asked if you are going to live with any meaning and purpose. If you don't have any idea what you want, pick something and give it 100% of your focus. Laser sharp focus.
You matter. Your life matters. It isn't something you should just "wing it" on and hope for the best. Make a plan. A really solid, awesome plan and go for it!
If you want my help doing that, be sure you are part of the EML Academy. I'll be right here, every day, helping you figure all of this out. Watch the replay of the Kicking Ass in 2022 Live Stream Here to get started.
Your happiness is not a gift given to you by others.
Create a mantra for your life. If you aren't writing your story, someone else is writing it for you.
Listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eml-radio-talking-truth/id1498113483?i=1000558947971
Hello my friends!
I'm finishing up the transition away from Locals onto Substack and wanted to be sure each of you have made the necessary adjustments to your accounts. For those of you who have remaining months left on your paid support here, I have comped you the balance over at Substack.
This will be the final week I post content here.
I will resume the live recordings over there, starting with our first call on Friday, March 3rd at 9am/12pm. Invitations to join the Zoom calls will go out on Substack. Mark your calendars!
Also, be sure to download the Substack App! I love the app and find it so helpful in organizing content I want to read later by keeping it on my dashboard.
See you on the other side!
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One of the biggest challenges in writing my book is not being able to share any of it along the way. Given my narcissistic need for constant approval and attention, not having any feedback is killing me. Even negative attention is better than no attention at all (which explains a lot of my behavior in life), so not only am I missing the praise but I also miss my haters.
I need to break out of this cave. Thanks to Chuck Palahniuk who writes Spoiler Alert on Substack, but you would know as the author of Fight Club, I got the idea to share some excerpts and things that won’t make the final edit. This will give us both what we need. I get some attention and you get some thought provoking words to make you think (and possibly laugh, cry or both.)
Today’s snippet is from the first draft of a chapter titled, Remove Your Kindergarten Name Tag. I am currently on my third revision and we can all be thankful for this. As I walk my readers through the dark hallways of my earliest years, and attempt ...
Wanted to pass this short video along. We think of health in very limited ways. Faith, nature, love, communality, shared human experience…all prove to be just as necessary, if not more so, than going to the gym.
I’ve always viewed and taught health from this perspective. It is my belief the lack of these essential elements is as big an issue in our culture as poor diet and lack of movement.
The takeaway-we can do better🙏🏼
