I find it unfortunate that as a whole, we are stuck with this reductive, selective idea that we have to agree with someone entirely in order to learn from them. It is depriving us of important lessons we could be learning from other people.
I firmly believe each and every person we encounter has something to teach us. A foundational premise of my book…”You Matter, to everyone yet to no one.”
This reading depicted below is a perfect example. I disagree with nearly every bit of what she writes here but that doesn’t mean the entire book is of no value to me. Quite contrary - this book adds tremendous value to my day.
Every now and then, I disagree whole heartedly with her excerpts. Like this one. And I like that.
When I read something I disagree with, it forces me to challenge my own beliefs. It requires me to think deeper about why I believe what I believe.
Her advice here, to just lay there and absorb what we’re thinking in the morning, I find highly counterproductive. After working with people for 15+ years, I can tell you that most people are suffering from anxiety at varying degrees. If they lay in bed and accept all those initial overwhelming thoughts, they would sink deeper into anxious feelings and overwhelm.
This reading forced me to think about why I don’t agree with it and we all need more of that. We need to resist the urge to tune out those with whom we disagree and instead, listen intently. Why don’t we agree with them? Why is our way of thinking better than theirs? Is our way of thinking better than theirs?
While I encourage people to set the tone for their day and agree that the solitude of morning is the most powerful time of day, I don’t agree with simply accepting the message because our mind plays a lot of tricks on us.
I am able to form my own opinion based upon personal and vast years of experience.
Avoid the urge to tune people out just because they say something you disagree with. Open up your mind, with curiosity about what they’re saying. Use their point of view to solidify your own.
We have sadly slipped into a society of not only flabby asses, but flabby minds. Strengthen your mind by challenging it.
Your happiness is not a gift given to you by others.
Create a mantra for your life. If you aren't writing your story, someone else is writing it for you.
Listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eml-radio-talking-truth/id1498113483?i=1000558947971
Hello my friends!
I'm finishing up the transition away from Locals onto Substack and wanted to be sure each of you have made the necessary adjustments to your accounts. For those of you who have remaining months left on your paid support here, I have comped you the balance over at Substack.
This will be the final week I post content here.
I will resume the live recordings over there, starting with our first call on Friday, March 3rd at 9am/12pm. Invitations to join the Zoom calls will go out on Substack. Mark your calendars!
Also, be sure to download the Substack App! I love the app and find it so helpful in organizing content I want to read later by keeping it on my dashboard.
See you on the other side!
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One of the biggest challenges in writing my book is not being able to share any of it along the way. Given my narcissistic need for constant approval and attention, not having any feedback is killing me. Even negative attention is better than no attention at all (which explains a lot of my behavior in life), so not only am I missing the praise but I also miss my haters.
I need to break out of this cave. Thanks to Chuck Palahniuk who writes Spoiler Alert on Substack, but you would know as the author of Fight Club, I got the idea to share some excerpts and things that won’t make the final edit. This will give us both what we need. I get some attention and you get some thought provoking words to make you think (and possibly laugh, cry or both.)
Today’s snippet is from the first draft of a chapter titled, Remove Your Kindergarten Name Tag. I am currently on my third revision and we can all be thankful for this. As I walk my readers through the dark hallways of my earliest years, and attempt ...
Wanted to pass this short video along. We think of health in very limited ways. Faith, nature, love, communality, shared human experience…all prove to be just as necessary, if not more so, than going to the gym.
I’ve always viewed and taught health from this perspective. It is my belief the lack of these essential elements is as big an issue in our culture as poor diet and lack of movement.
The takeaway-we can do better🙏🏼
